I say, why not? Whatever happened to personal freedom? I raise you one ‘bloody fantastic’.. :-)
Many of my single male friends (most of my friends, that is) who do not fit child-man/odyssey years stereotype report on another equally weird thing. Women checking their entire family history out on the first date. The first time it happened to a friend in Sili Valley, he was so shocked. He had never been ‘treated like a sperm bank before’ (his words). Is it any wonder that so many men want to run away from these loudly ticking biological clocks?
We all have our peculiarities which may be getting worse and more pronounced in this self-centered age. But who should really be casting the first stone?
Had to respond to Shefaly…Wow, that is pretty funny! There are ups and downs to all sides, we should be particularly aware, that’s it…Save the stones for constructing something meaningful…Possibly a bridge to connect the two??
I like the idea of using the stones to build rather than flinging them. But clearly there is a divide, and Shefaly actually puts her finger on where its source lies — biology. Having said this we seem to be in an age where that isn’t such a prevalent concern, and power relationships are shifting between girls and boys accordingly. Overall, across genders, there is an increasing childishness, and a heavier focus on image and look — the superficial over the substantial. In this sense much of modern culture is under the sway of Paris Hilton and her ilk…And probably always has been.
“..Having said this we seem to be in an age where that isn’t such a prevalent concern..”
Many researchers, including Sylvia-Ann Hewlett, who work on women’s issues, note that women’s reliance on advancements in science really is misplaced. In that sense, panicking women are right but I have found the smartest of my male friends completely oblivious to the concept of biology’s limitations (God knows what they were doing in 8th grade biology classes!). Hence the divergent expectations.
So the reality is that (to paraphrase – with apologies – Jane Austen) a single woman in possession of a sky-rocketing career and a ticking biological clock must be in want of a husband. And the prospect is improving his handicap on his Wii or racing Laguna Seca on PSP2 (it is not just men, you know…).
Necromancer: Probably I spoke too soon about hope. I notice my comment on this post by Penelope bringing me a tonne of traffic so I went back to see what I said. The post is about Gen-Y being advised to move back home with parents…
Shefaly: I take you point about prolonged adolescence. Though I am somewhat guilty of this myself. As the son of a single mom and an only child, I have a particular dynamic with my parent. She’s at times like a big sister, and there have been many occasions where cash was tight where I’ve stayed at home during grad school — and there were also a few occasions where I helped her out. But in general I see the merit of your criticism.